- Narcissistic personalities are charismatic, self-driven, results-orientated and have the skills to achieve the business results required. It is challenging at interview stage to establish if an individual is Narcissistic or not. These individuals will have a good history of achieving business results – exactly what a business looks for in potential recruits. The focus is on the individual’s ability to achieve and financial results not behaviours.
If there is a consistent pattern of the following behaviours;
- Constant criticism and damage to your self-esteem Example: Your work and efforts are constantly being picked at in a negative way and you are losing confidence in your abilities.
- Regular Anger and Rage outbursts Example: Constantly shouting at people and being aggressive in meetings.
- Gaslighting – Making your doubt yourself and your reality. Example: Your boss blatantly denies your version of events and twists conversations to suit them leaving you feeling confused and doubting yourself.
- Controlling behaviour Example: Micromanaging you and interfering with your team dynamics.
- A lack of Empathy Example: No interest, compassion or understanding of others feelings or needs
- Arrogant behaviours and attitude – a belief of being superior to others
- A sense of entitlement. Example: Believes that given their position they are entitled to do whatever they want without any accountability.
You are being gas lit if you are doubting your own reality and if the other person is blatantly denying their account of events – i.e. avoiding taking responsibility and turning the blame on you.
Yes there is. Firstly, you need to understand the power play and traits of Narcissism, then accept that this person will not change and see any reason to. Narcissists lack self-awareness. Once you understand you can then implement strategies to deal with this type of person whilst having clear boundaries and practicing self-care.
No you are not at fault. You are not responsible for someone else’s behaviours. Narcissists are very disordered and constantly project their issues onto others through control and manipulation. It is impossible to have a healthy, honest relationship with a Narcissist.
Put simply No! They do not see any reason to change or anything wrong with their behaviour. They lack empathy so therefore do not care how their behaviour impacts others. They simply are all about themselves, power and control.